Monday, July 19, 2010

MIA- For a Good Reason- This Is a Long One!

Good Monday morning to you all!  I hope and pray your weekends were great!  Sorry for being MIA as of late, but now we have Internet at our house, thank you husband, and we also have a potty training Molly.  Yes, that is correct, we took the potty training plunge last Thursday and knock on wood, so far so good.  That's not to say we haven't had any accidents, but yesterday was accident free, and I praying today is also. 

I really went into this whole training experience as just that, an experience.  Another chapter in this great big book called "Parenthood."  I tried to set the bar low, go in with little to no expectations and see what happened.  Well, my little protege caught on.  At least I think she did.  It took 2 times of wetting herself and realizing she could control that, since she hates, hates, hates being dirty, wet, anything but clean.  Seriously, if something drips on this kid's leg she freaks out.  However, my child is very strong-willed, happily and sadly she gets that from me, so now I have a lot more empathy for my dear mother!  Molly hated the fact that we still made her try even if she didn't have to go.  But she learned why, she peed again, on herself, in the bathroom, right beside the toilet during one of her protests to trying.  After that she peed in the potty (well, the grown-up toilet, we didn't use a potty seat or chair) and realized she could do it on her own.  Which after she goes she proudly says "I got it!"  Yes, Molly, yes, you got it. 

You got it a little too well my friend.  Now we are up till at least 9 every night so little miss independent can continue to get it in the potty.  So we are starting to limit liquids.  Because this momma would like to get to bed! 

She had one accident on Friday and Saturday and other than that she has "got it" in her words.  I was a nervous wreck about church yesterday.  I was so scared she would be the first child to pee in the Nursery, right there in front of everyone.  But she didn't.  She went to the bathroom like a big girl and proudly announced "I got it Mom." 

Today is our first day back to the babysitter, who was less than thrilled to know Molly was wearing underwear.  She would prefer her in a pull-up, I know my child, she would get lazy and pee in that and never "get it" again.  We are reserving pull-ups for naps and bed right now.  Which she has been dry the last couple days/nights.  Like I said, she gets it a little too well at night.  I guess I shouldn't complain, but I am. 

We are still working on doing other things on the potty, like having a bowel movement, sorry if you are eating breakfast.  I am not sure if she is scared to go on the potty or what.  But I know she has to, trust me, I know.  So any advice on that would be wonderful!  I put a diaper on her while I took a shower on Saturday and she went in that, but then she asked for another diaper instead of underwear.  But we talked her back into princess underwear and she did great.  Here is another tid-bit, my kid loves public bathrooms, gag.  But she does!  Which I guess is great because I heard horror stories about kids holding it and not going in public restrooms, not my kid, she would go in every stall if I let her. 

I really went into this whole training thing blind.  I read zero books about potty training, I looked nothing up on the Internet about it, I only went off what you all and other friends have told me.  Which I think has been best.  We did what worked for Molly.  And so far its working.  We did do a sticker chart, I think more for me than her.  I was excited to see her put her stickers on the chart and now that they are all on there, all 25 stickers, she can go pick a toy out.  Which I think she could care less.  Molly wants us to have confidence in her, regardless of how many stickers and toys we give her.  But I am still going to let her pick out something special. 

One other thing I was not prepared for was getting emotional about this whole process.  The first time Molly peed in the potty I got teary eyed and had to look away from her.  I am not used to seeing little butt cheeks in cotton underwear or folding Dora underwear.  I don't feel old enough to have a child in underwear, how many times can I use that word?  Yesterday at church when she shattered my worst fear, and peed in the bathroom, not on the floor, I cried.  I am not sure if it's the baby hormones or what, but I felt so proud of Molly, and so happy for her. 

Lastly, now that Molly has expressed her bathroom independence, she is trying to push the limits in other areas of her life, like attitude, behavior, bedtime, etc.  So with being proud of my potty training little girl, I am also frustrated up to my neck with this new found "freedom" she thinks she has.  Any advice on how to handle an almost 3 year old would be fabulous too.  Eric and I are sticking with the rules, regardless of how Molly likes it, and I know it will pay off, but boy it's hard! 

Thanks for hanging in there with me today...I just needed to share.  Now with Internet again, I will hopefully be back on track with you all!  Have a great day!

11 comments:

Sarah Robbins said...

Way to go Molly! Whew- that has to be such a relief with the new baby coming!

As for the #2, I have heard if you can find a way for them to distract themselves, that really helps. The first time is supposed to be the hardest. Maybe if you could roll a tv into the bathroom or have her sit and read a whole bunch of books she likes. Those are what I have heard that works from my girlfriends. . . Good luck!

Holly said...

Glad you have your internet back!!

Way to go Molly on the potty!! That's great! Kyndra is getting there slowly. Anth and I are happy with her progress and aren't rushing but I can def say it would be nice if she would just catch on and 'get it' already! lol

Wish I could give advice but I'm right there with you!

Kristin said...

Hooray for internet!! :D

I love that Molly says, "I got it"....that is so cute!! It sounds like you are doing a great job with her! I totally agree on pull-ups actually setting back the process during the day. Once they know they can go in those, they're just like diapers and give them no reason to try the potty (in my experience). That is a huge step for her to go at church! And yes, ewwww.....Lily loves public potties too. I hate going to them!

All 3 of my girls had issues with the whole BM too. I think it does scare them a bit, but she will get it. I actually had issues with Lily holding hers in until she simply couldn't anymore. She screamed when I made her do it in the potty, but once you get over that first hurdle, you're good! We even had a few huge accidents in the panties....my advice when that happens, just cut your losses and toss the panties! Haha!!

I always say that there's no such thing as terrible 2's, it's terrible 3's! It's just part of this age, I think.

He & Me + 3 said...

OMGosh that is so exciting. My kids got it in very little time too and "got it". It was emotional but in a good way. Go Molly!

Alison said...

That is so great that she got it so quickly! I think that potty training might be my least favorite thing about parenthood so far! :) Thankfully, Callie Grace got it very easily too, and Caty pretty much potty trained herself starting at 17 months! Now Carson? Oh my, that is a whole other story!!!!

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Mom Putnam said...

Every child is different and she will get it and then yu are on easy street. Keep doing what yo you are and it will gewt better as each new day arrives. She will have accidents and that is part of the learning.

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Becca said...

WOOOHOOO MOLLY!!! We also had the same issue with the whole BM thing. She would sit there and tell us it hurt. The ONLY way she would use the bathroom for a BM and still to this day is if no one is in the room with her?! She just calls us in there to wipe her. HA!

OH and I totally agree with Kristin. I don't get the whole terrible twos. Two was easy and a blast. Three, well, it has been terrible!!!!!!! Not to scare you or anything just stick to the rules like you guys are doing!

Steph T. said...

Way to go Molly & you too Kate! Keep it up!! I remember those times...ugh. But once you make it thru these days it will be wonderful!!!
Missed ya and glad you are back!!

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