Monday, March 7, 2011

Back to the basics of blogging...

As I mentioned in one of my birthday posts that my mom made my blog from the last 3 years into a book, and it's been really fun and insightful looking back at what I wrote.  I actually- not to sound boastful, admire my writings, more like the topics I wrote about and I miss myself sometimes from these past 3 years.  I know some of you may be scratching your heads right now.  I am not going anywhere, nor am I in the looney bin, well, officially not checked in, some days with the girls I feel like I am! 

Since beginning this blog journey I from time to time feel pressure to write about really cool topics, or something that will really impress you all.  I know I am not the only one who feels this pressure.  I am always trying to think of the next big idea, or next big blog post to write and publish, and you are always wondering about how many comments will this get...even though you are thinking right now; "I don't care about comments..." blah, blah, yes you do.  You want someone to at least acknowledge they read your post, or at least clicked on it.  It's okay, there is nothing wrong with that.  But lately, pretty much since Lucy was born I have struggled with time management, some out of my control, some in my control, and blogging has taken a backseat.  Which I truly hate.

Okay, here it all comes full circle...I started blogging when Molly was a wee baby and I needed the sense of community that a stay-at-home mommy craves.  And I found you all along my way.  Now I am not an official stay-at-home mom anymore, I stay home 5 out of 7 days a week...so whatever that makes me...regardless, I am a mom, and I still crave that community and support.  And I will totally play the pastor's wife card...I need community that doesn't go to my church, that doesn't care about my "influence" at the church.  Because lets be honest, I have no influence, haha! 

Seriously, I am woman and I want to be accepted by other women, plain and simple.  I think most of you can relate.  So here is where the circle will make a circle...I am going back to the basics of blogging for me.  I love feeling like I am a part of your families and lives, and I want you all to feel that with me.  So this may mean some more boring, ho-hum posts with little comments, that's okay, as long as one of you promises to write something nice, Mom this means you!  And I am going to make blogging more of a priority in my life.  I am not planning on neglecting my family or responsibilities but it's a huge outlet for me and I love the way I feel after reading all of your posts.  You guys give me lots to think about, cute ideas, good recipes, and overall a feeling of belonging.  I feel like life happens best in community, this is what God created us for.  So welcome to my community...

13 comments:

Sarah Robbins said...

You are not alone- I feel the same way and I made the same decision. At least I know my mom is reading if no one else.

I really love the community of "sisters" that I have found through blogging. The Lord used them at an important time in my life when I really needed companionship and was not finding it other ways. I am so thankful for all my blogger friends, and I love to read about real life. Who cares about the other stuff? It's nice filler if it is what you are really thinking about or caring about at the moment, but it's not what keeps us all coming back!

(Seriously, I have to stick around to see if Lucy has Molly's curls!)

Jen said...

great post. a lot of moms can relate to what you shared from your heart. thank you for your vulnerability to share and encourage other to do the same!
p.s.
i always read, but mostly from my phone which is hard to comment from :)

Holly said...

It's def been harder for me to blog and read since Lainey but I still do enjoy it and plan to continue. I def don't do fancy posts! lol Mostly it's just a catch up of our lives. You know I'll still be around and commenting!

Jenilee said...

I'm so glad that you are continuing to blog about your everday life as a mom! I always read your posts even if I don't make it over to comment. :)

HappyascanB said...

I always love your blogs! I'm tickled you'll be continuing and will be blogging just as you wish!

I also struggle with the "will I get comments on this?" posts. My love language is words of affirmation, so I really, really crave comments. it's annoying, really.

April said...

well stated! i'm right there with you!

Kristin said...

I honestly enjoy reading most the blogs of my friends, reading about their lives, their kids, what they've been up to....just the miscellaneous randomness of life! I rarely will read a blog because it's popular or so "creative". I blog because I love all my blog friends and I have always loved reading your blog and seeing what your girls are doing, etc. Ever since I moved my blog, I have enjoyed blogging more because I know the only people reading are my close blog friends and I don't have to worry about if I get comments or anything like that. Sometimes I just start writing because it makes me feel better and then I forget certain people will be reading it, like people I know in real life. Ha!

{:miss v:} said...

I feel the same way sometimes. I've loved meeting and getting to know my bloggie friends and having that sense of being accepted and belonging.

I enjoy reading about your life and your girls! Even the less interesting things! And you know what? Sometimes when I've written something that I thought was boring, those have sometimes been the posts that have received the most comments! So what may seem boring to you, others may find very interesting!

Steph T. said...

OH I feel the same way...what the heck to blog about. But somedays I just wanna write about what's on my mind & what is goin on in my family. I love you friend & even though we have not truly "met" I feel like we sit down & have a cup of coffee every time I read your blog. Keep it real sister! have a great trip!

Fred::Erin::Eliana said...

It is always helpful to have a community away from your church community. I can relate to that in many ways. Also, I appreciate that you read and keep up with my family. You've been so encouraging even from afar. Thanks!

Molly's Grandma said...

Well said, and your mom thinks you are extra special :) I like that you keep it real and risk telling the truth, plus posting pics of my "girls" always brings a smile.

Amanda said...

Love your transparency and honesty. You are not alone, girl!

I continually am praying about my blog. I realize it can be a place of community, a place of ministry, a place of creativity, and lots of other wonderful things...but if it's all "mine" and something I never allow God to enter into, it is not worth my time and energy. My blog is nothing spectacular, but it is a special place in my life that I enjoy and where I am constantly talking to God about...and most days :) am very satisfied knowing that despite the stats, comments, etc...that He is using it in ways I may never know. (although I confess it is such a treat when He lets me know through an email, comment, etc...) but He's been good not to allow too many of those to keep me dependent on Him!! Smile.

Love,
Amanda

Becca said...

I feel the exact same way. I LOVE my blog. I'm not a creative writer by any means so most of my posts state that me and the girls had a great time doing this with pictures. And that is prefect to me. I do feel like readers may get bored over time but the thing is, I didn't make my blog for the readers although I do love all of my little blogging friends.

SO blog away on whatever topics you want to. Just know that I will still be here!!