Wednesday, January 2, 2013

One Word for 2013

I love choosing a word to focus on each year.  It helps me put things into perspective, or at least try to, ha!  I was getting excited about what word I thought God might be telling me to focus on, I kept thinking of different ones, but none seem to fit, or feel right.  Then Eric's grandma passed away and the word choosing was no longer in the forefront of my mind.

All last week we soaked up good old fashioned family time.  It was incredible.  Eric performed the funeral service for his grandma, and we met with all the family to discuss what they wanted said or share about grandma.  Eric had everyone in the family start saying words or phrases that came to mind about grandma.  Lets say no one was at a loss for words.  We all kept them coming, we laughed, cried, and smiled as we shared memories about Grandma Ferguson.

Oh, how I wish you all could have met Eric's grandma.  She truly was the sweetest, kindest, and most loving person you have ever known.  Grandma Ferguson loved with her whole being, and she cared tremendously about everyone.  She spoke wisdom even long after she lost her ability to speak.  When you were with grandma, everything was right in the world again.  I wish you all could have heard the beautiful and moving message Eric gave at her funeral.  Not a dry eye in the place, including Eric.  I know she is in Heaven, I know her body is whole, and I know she is spending her days with Jesus, but it still hurts that she is gone.  I lost both my grandma's by the time I was 8, so Eric's grandma was my grandma in a sense.  I have known Grandma Ferguson since I was Molly's age and I still remember her drinking coffee in the church kitchen.  She stood no taller then 4 foot something, yet commanded respect with her small stature.

Eric talked about 3 things he felt his grandma's life represented here on earth, they are faith, hope, and love.  Eric's Aunt Patty, who cared for Eric's grandma, gave him grandma's Bible.  What a treasure.  Eric was able to go through her Bible and see her writing, her highlights, her notes.  A Bible truly reveals a lot about a person.  Eric was able to incorporate some of her favorite scriptures into his message at the funeral.  It was so moving, and so inspiring.  Eric's aunt spoke about grandma in such a touching way.  One of the things she said has been locked in mind, she frankly said "if God is love, then I said good morning and good night to God every day of my life."  That was truly Eric's grandma.

Not to sound cliche but Eric's grandma truly was a Proverbs 31 woman, to listen to her kids, daughter-in-laws, grandkids, and great grandkids talk so wonderfully about her was truly motivational and inspiring.  When I am gone, I hope my kids say half of the things we said about Grandma Ferguson. 

All of that to say my word for 2013 is...loving

I wish my word was so much more bold, strong, and sassy, but loving is truly what I feel God has laid on my heart.  Especially after hearing how Eric's grandma was the epitome of love.  The reason why she loved so well was because she knew and felt the love God had for her.  Eric said if you knew his grandma you knew her faith, the two were not separate.  That's exactly how I want to be.  So 2013 will be focused on being more loving, and I am using 1 Corinthians 13 as my guide...
"If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end."   
1 Corinthians 13:3-7 {The Message}

I can't wait to share more about my victories, and I am sure my fair share of defeats all while trying to be more loving.  

3 comments:

Becca said...

Sounds like Eric's grandmother was a truly special woman. Excited to hear about all the loving you are going to be doing in 2013! :D

Happy New Year

Joyeful said...

Wow, what a woman!! And what a truly inspiring legacy to leave behind--a legacy of love. I've been thinking about the word for this year, too, and I think God just confirmed it tonight through your post. :) :)

Messy Mom said...

This is really beautiful. I am truly inspired. It makes me want to do more and be more loving.